In today’s fast-paced dating scene filled with swiping, ghosting, and soft launching, starting a relationship can seem overwhelming—so sustaining it for decades might feel nearly impossible. Between demanding careers, parenting pressures, and endless household chores, is it really surprising that up to half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce?
Yet, the solution to this modern relationship challenge might be simpler—and far more rewarding—than you'd expect. According to Steve, a Boona customer who’s celebrating over 50 years of marriage, the key is vulnerability.
Why Vulnerability Is Your Relationship's Greatest Asset
For Steve and his wife, vulnerability means dropping defenses, sharing their deepest fears, and being comfortable enough to show their true emotions—even when it's messy. “Being vulnerable has made all the difference,” Steve shares. This emotional openness doesn't just feel good; it’s scientifically proven to strengthen bonds. Dr. Brené Brown's research reveals vulnerability is essential for building trust and fostering deep emotional intimacy.
But how do you create space for vulnerability in everyday life?
Commitment and Trust: The Cornerstones of Connection
Early in their relationship, Steve and his wife made intentional choices to build trust and maintain their connection. Despite Steve's demanding career, which often kept him away from home, the couple committed to daily check-ins every morning and night. These simple yet powerful moments allowed them to continually reaffirm their commitment, even when physically apart.
Steve also established a non-negotiable rule: no matter what, he’d always be home on Friday. This commitment communicated clearly that their relationship was his top priority.
Rituals That Foster Genuine Intimacy
Now retired, Steve and his wife find joy in simple, everyday rituals. Their morning latte sessions are about more than enjoying coffee - they’re about sharing dreams, ideas, or planning their next adventures. The couple lives only 45 minutes from Yosemite so they've made it a routine to escape into nature and enjoy quality time together. Steve emphasizes that by turning moments like these - with no phones or distractions - into rituals they've been able to create plenty of opportunities to connect on a deeper level.
One particularly unique, and surprisingly powerful, ritual Steve highlights is showering together. Even after five decades, this intimate routine has become central to their connection. "The shower isn't just about getting clean," Steve explains, “it’s also a place for intimacy and fun.” From racing to slather each other in shaving cream to gently washing each other's hair, the couple has found a way to remain physically and emotionally connected, keeping the spark alive as they’ve gotten older. Recently, they upgraded to Boona's Tandem Shower and now can enjoy their beloved showers while both staying warm, making a favorite activity even better!
Moreover, Steve shares that being comfortable with openly discussing their desires in this intimate space has brought them closer, making them feel youthful and vibrant into their late 60s. “We can be open and honest about what we like and don’t like, because we’re intimate in the shower,” Steve shares.
Friendship: The Foundation of Vulnerability
When asked about their enduring love, Steve stresses friendship as the foundational element. “Don’t ever lose sight of your friendship,” he advises. “Even in disagreements, if you maintain that friendship, you'll get past it because at the end of the day, you still want what's best for each other.”
Their strong friendship naturally facilitates open, honest dialogue—especially around sensitive issues like intimacy or sexual challenges. Steve highlights that vulnerability can be particularly difficult for men but emphasizes the importance of pushing through discomfort. Their willingness to tackle difficult conversations head-on has significantly strengthened their emotional and physical connection.
As they are approaching their 70s, Steve proudly declares their love life is thriving: “We still got it,” he smiles. Proof that vulnerability is good for the soul and great for your sex life too.
Embrace the Power of Vulnerability
Steve’s powerful insight reveals a clear truth: vulnerability, supported by unwavering commitment, trust, and authentic communication, forms the foundation of lasting love. Embrace every moment—the awkward, joyful, emotional, and challenging—to create a safe space where both partners feel seen, heard, and deeply loved.
Ultimately, vulnerability isn't a weakness—it's your relationship’s greatest strength.
